As we move deeper into the holiday season and approach the new year, many of us are facing questions about our future. When will our global paralysis end? How will it ultimately affect our life? Our work? Our family?
Regardless of how you are maneuvering through the uncertainty, I hope you take time to decelerate and recharge this holiday season. Do a digital detox, go a day or two without a computer, spend time in nature, get proper rest, infuse your thoughts with inspiration. Do something that brings you joy.
And as we head into the new year, you can think of a few of your closest relationships and reflect on the following questions:
- What have I received from __________?
- What have I given to ________?
- What troubles and difficulty have I caused?
Using this awareness, you can then shift your relationships as you deem best.
Thank you so much for being part of our healing community, for reading the emails and blog posts, and for helping to heal our world by healing yourself. I am so grateful to you and for you.
Thank you for trusting me enough to include me on your health and wellness journey. I don’t take that for granted. It’s an honor to do this work.
May this holiday season bring you and yours vibrant health and more appreciation, love, and peace. And may you allow yourself to receive and enjoy, for you give so much.
I look forward to continuing with you in the new year. We have lots of new and exciting podcast episodes and conferences to come!
I’ll end with a prayer from the Upanishads:
May all be happy.
May all be free from illness.
May all see what is spiritually uplifting.
May no one suffer.
Peace. Peace. Peace.
Please reach out to me if you are in need of support. You are not alone.
We’ve lost a lot over the last 2 years. Family members. Friends. Relationships. Traditions. Routines. Milestones. Rites of passage. Financial security. Jobs. The plans we made that never came to fruition.
The holiday season is called “the most wonderful time of the year,” but it’s especially challenging when you’re in grief.
There’s an empty seat at the table and a void in our hearts. So often, our loved ones just don’t understand the depths of our grief. Sometimes they tell us that it’s time to move on. Or that our loved one wouldn’t want us to be sad. Or we might feel that we need to be strong for others and so we suppress our grief.
Holidays bring up intense feelings of trauma and grief that we often feel have nowhere to go. What you express diminishes in its power over you; it’s what you don’t express that stays stuck in you and ultimately causes suffering.
This holiday season, take some time out for self-care of your heart, mind, body, and Soul. Go for a walk in nature. Move and sweat. Shower and let the water run over you and soothe your heart and body. Rest, nap, sleep. Go for a massage or buy an electric massager you can use at home.
When grieving, it’s best to not be alone for extended periods of time. Connect with others who understand you and empathize so that you can work through your grief.
Getting the support you need when you are grieving is important so that you process your emotions and don’t end up traumatized from the event. Please reach out to me if you are in need of support. You are not alone.
If you don’t have anyone you can connect with deeply, then write. Writing can be a very healing experience. We express our thoughts differently on paper than we do when we speak or even when we just think. Writing can surface memories and truths we may have compartmentalized or forgotten. It can help us to remember with even more love, lead us to new insights, and foster empathy for ourselves and others.
Trust that the process will take you where you need to go. You might want to set aside a special time each day for your writing ritual. You might even want to establish a ritual around your writing time with a cup of tea, your favorite pen, and a lit candle. Don’t censor your thoughts. Your writing is for you and no one else. Give yourself permission to simply write and be present.
Remember that our grieving friends and family need our love during the holidays, not plans to keep them busy or distracted.
If you’re inviting someone to your home who is grieving, don’t invite them with the goal of cheering them up. Invite them with the loving intention of offering companionship and care during the holidays. Give them the freedom to change their RSVP at the last minute.
We don’t need to protect each other from grief at the holidays. In fact, the more we embrace the grief, the healthier and happier our holidays will be.
If you need help to move through your grief, I can teach you how to remove the trapped pain and energy from your body. We can express our anger, regrets, and trauma and make space for love, peace, and healing to enter us. The journey of healing grief is one of transforming from stasis to movement, from repetition to possibility, from constriction to openness.
Your grief doesn’t get smaller.
You get bigger.
Conscious Life: Trauma Super Conference
International Online Conference | December 3-9, 2021
It’s the final countdown!
Have you signed up for the Trauma Super Conference yet?
If not, you still have time!
The event is free and features exclusive interviews with 70+ of the world’s most trusted trauma experts including psychologists, psychiatrists, functional medical doctors, researchers, neuroscientists and healers who will be sharing their best tools and strategies for identifying and healing unresolved trauma of all kinds.
Alongside myself, internationally renowned mental health professionals like Dr Gabor Maté, Dr Peter Levine, and Dr Stephen Porges will cover a broad range of topics and themes including:
• Day 1 – Impacts of Trauma: Understanding how trauma manifests as symptoms in the brain, body, and behaviors
• Day 2 – Methodologies for Healing Trauma Part 1: Therapies designed to help you feel whole again
• Day 3 – Collective trauma: Understanding intergenerational, cultural, social and institutional trauma
• Day 4 – Relational Trauma: When trauma happens in our close relationships and families, it requires a relational approach
• Day 5 – Trauma and the Body: Trauma healing is more than understanding, it requires full body integration
• Day 6 – Methodologies for Healing Trauma Part 2: Cutting edge psychedelics research and somatic approaches for treating trauma
• Day 7 – Functional Medicine: Supporting our healing from the inside out using nutrition, supplements, and mindfulness
Join in for the whole event, or feel free to pop in for the sessions that are of greatest interest to you.
In July 2020, I was honored by an invitation to serve as a panelist to speak with His Holiness the Dalai Lama on the topic of “Compassion in Medical Practice.”
His Holiness remarked, “As far as health is concerned, it relates not only to our bodies, but also to our minds and emotions. In the past, we’ve learned to observe physical hygiene to protect our physical health. What we’re learning today is that to preserve our peace of mind, we need to adopt the principles of emotional hygiene.”
Until recently, scientists have focused on the brain without giving much thought to our mind and our inner world.
The 5,000-year-old Indian science of Ayurveda teaches us that optimal health is the result of balancing the physical body, mental body, emotional body, and spiritual body. It combines diet, supplementation, physical movement, and stress-relieving techniques to create well-being and inner peace.
We benefit when we combine the best of modern medicine and education with the wisdom of ancient Indian knowledge. His Holiness the Dalai Lama advocates this. I know because I heard him on our call.
Featured speaker on How to Grow Your Inner Nurturer.
Presented a talk on the 7 Ways to Balance Your Chakras through Diet. Taught about how each of the chakras corresponds to the safety & security, emotions, thoughts, love, words, intuition, and spirituality.
Presented a live webinar with Q&A on Ayurveda, lifestyle, and wellness for Trinity University in the US.
Conducted a cyclic meditation workshop for the Museum of Happiness which was founded in London in 2015.
A month-long program on nutrition, meditation, yoga, culture and wellness that taught how to eat, move, and think healthy.
Taught about the three doshas (mind-body constitutions), which foods to eat more of and which to avoid in order to maintain balance in our mind-body, and what we can do to naturally heal ourselves using food.
Taught about Tonglen, meaning “giving and receiving” in Tibetan, and how we can awaken our ability to give and receive by recognizing that we are conduits of all that the Universe offers.
Taught that we can learn to adapt to others who are different from us by developing self-awareness and mindfulness, seeking information, listening and asking questions, tolerating ambiguity, becoming other-oriented, becoming socially de-centered, developing empathy and learning about cultural value patterns.
Taught that can reach optimal health through diet when we eat the rainbow diet, choose high vibration foods, eat lean protein, and healthy fats like MCT (medium-chain triglycerides) oil, which quickly converts energy into energy to fuel the body and brain, allows for less consumption of carbohydrates, and reduces body fat.
Taught about the interplay of many factors like genes, nutrition, diet, physical movement, stress, sleep, relationships, emotional health, spiritual practice, mindset, community, and life purpose. All while taking into account each person’s unique mind-body-spirit composition as per Ayurveda.